What we tell ourselves becomes our truth when we decide to offer nothing else to ourselves. We become the victim of our own abuse when we use language that limits our beliefs, opportunities or possibilities.
In order to understand how this really works we can look at our speech and the words we choose to describe ourselves and our situations. Let’s look at some of the most common ways people limit themselves with their own internal and external speech.
Many say things like “I going to work on myself…” or “this week it’s going to be different…” or “…that’s on my list to work on…” Or the ever popular “I can’t afford that… or I don’t have enough money for that…” All of these statements probably feel very true to the person who says them in that moment but there are other ways to speak to ourselves that are just as accurate but that give us power, hope and a way out.
Saying I don’t have the money is a statement that traps you in scarcity forever. There is no reprieve and you are now dead in the water by your own description of your situation. We also trap our results and our goals in the future by always talking about them in the future tense. However, there is a way to talk to yourself that can and in most cases does offer you a pathway to find solutions. No matter what your economic situation is if you instead asked “How can I afford that?” or “How can I become more valuable?” Then you offer ways to solve your situation.
We often make these kinds of limiting statements to ourselves that really are not accurate to our situations, but they become true to us because we seek nothing beyond what we say. Turning all of these negative statements about ourselves into questions that allow our brains to seek answers and solutions is a positive way to improve our situations, become less trapped by our situations but mostly become more open to new ways to see ourselves, our lives and our situations.
No matter how you choose to describe yourself and life, your way of talking to yourself and others are the keys to creating optimism, positivity and the solutions to all your problems.
I am love. I am joy. I am so very good.
