Most people say that you earn trust, but why then do we trust so few. I mean really trust so few. When we do not trust we ourselves become un-trust worthy to others. Most just want others to be trust worthy by acting in these ways before we allow ourselves to trust them. But trust is never really earned it is always given.
Trusting our peers or family or anyone for that matter is a gift that we give others. If we charge for it by demanding that others act in trusting ways before we give our trust, then we set up a transactional relationship with others where we need conditions to trust, to love, to feel the warm feelings of friendship. But I have broken the code!
I trust, I love and I offer without proof or conditions. To me this is the most enlightened way to always control my emotional outcomes with others. This doesn’t mean that I don’t take it way if someone harms me or takes advantage of my trust or faith in them Once you lose trust then it can often be difficult or impossible to get it back.
To this day, I have never lied to my mother. Why? Because when I was a little boy, my mother told me if I ever lied to her then I would lose her trust and then I would have to earn it back. I don’t like earning things back that I once had. So I never have lied to her. And today I have a wonderfully loving and trusting relationship with my mother.
Do you require proof before you trust? How does that make you feel? When you do trust, how does that make you feel about yourself and others? I find that my life is deeply enhanced when I trust and love without discrimination. I become the beneficiary of more loving moments and a deeper connection with all that I encounter. I am love. I am joy. I am so very good.
P.S. the picture was just 2 days after my daughter was born 11.5 years ago. When I think of unconditional trust and love… this is the image that comes to mind.
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