Each of us define success differently, but most think that success can only be seen in accomplishments, mastery or money. The problem is, if we define our success by how much we have, our accomplishments or by how good we are at something then most often the result of pursuing these values is dissatisfaction. We become unhappy and then need to find new goals around money, mastery and accomplishments to continually feed our need to be validated by our definition of success.
But we can also define success to mean living in such a way that aims to always add value. To me this is a much better way to ensure that I can better control how happy and satisfied I am with all my efforts. I can’t always control what comes to me, when I achieve or how good I can get at anything. I can control what I give of my self in my relationships and my career as well as any other activity or interest in my life.
This is really a shift in focusing my idea of success from the tangible conditions of life to the intangible inner self. This intangible always feels more rewarding because we are allowing or giving these feelings (or outcomes) to ourselves from within. We aren’t relying on external conditions to stimulate us to feel something. Instead, we are producing the good feelings that we all want from our thoughts and actions which we always control.
No matter how you may define success, it is important to really understand and evaluate what success means to you in your life. When we each understand our real motivations and our real emotional drivers then we can be the most effective and understand where we may need help.
I am love. I am joy. I am so very good.
P.S. Me and my brother eating a celebration dinner after the North American Championships several years ago.
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