I am always having conversations about joy and our perspective with my clients and people that I know. I want to always encourage the best experience in this life for everyone, including myself. And I know that what I am finding in my life, whether it be joy or sadness is a direct reflection of the position of my attitude (i.e. my perspective). However, some perspectives offer joy more easily, while others will find pain quickly. The tricky thing about our own perspectives on any given topic is that they are always shifting and changing. Our point of view on any of the topics we engage with can change based on elements that we may be focused on in that moment. So watching a certain movie may bring you to joyful tears one day, while 2 weeks later it may help you feel something completely different. So how can we choose to always have the attitude that will empower us to find the feelings that we want?
By examining what we tell ourselves about anything will give away the temperature of your attitude. Am I flying high with good feelings or am I focused in such a way that I find skepticism and doubt? Often times these messages that we tell ourselves show up as feelings. Just talking about certain topics in a conversation can so often make a person feel uncomfortable or upset. Nothing has really happened to the person, but these feeling messages become real in these moments. We literally create a reality in our minds and we physically feel something from it. In these cases, we have created a new reality simply by thinking or talking about it. It becomes real when we can feel it. Our brains and bodies do not know that it is just imagined or not actually happening.
In the end, everything we feel really is a choice that we make with our perspective on any given topic. Just being aware of this can help you change the messages and thus your attitude toward anything you desire. We really do create our own reality with our thoughts, but more specifically it is the meaning that we are choosing to embrace that determines the joy, the fun and the love that we get to experience in our lives. Nobody else chooses your attitude or perspective for you, so choose carefully based on the emotional feedback that you wish to embrace. I am joy. I am love. I am so very good.