Deep Listening

“In order to truly connect with others we must meet others on their emotional battle ground in order to understand and to add value.” - Tad Inoue

When I want to connect with someone and really understand who they are, what they want or need I must move to a deeper kind of listening. I must, in part at least, go to that emotional place with whom I speak with. I must acknowledge their struggle and pain as valid. I must try to see through the lenses to which they are viewing the world. Only then can I understand with enough clarity to offer real value. 

So when I engage in this kind of dialogue and I want to be of service then I open my ears and my heart to try and see the world as they do for just a minute. I only view the world this way, I do not enter that world. If I entered it I would be in pain too. So I view it carefully with a critical but caring eye. Then I can be of true support. Then I can say I love you and mean it. 

After all, loving each another is a special kind of recognition of who you are and where you are at in this very moment. Loving each other in this way says “I see you. I understand your pain the best way I know how. And I am here with you.” It doesn’t always mean I have any answers and it doesn’t always mean that things are good. It just means I am with you and you aren’t alone. 

There is so much to love about each one of us. It is ashamed that sometimes we focus on such small things to dislike each other. But it is good to know that I can see something more when I try. I can see that no matter what the pain or struggle we each may have, there is a perfect and loving spirit within each of us. I don’t confuse this physical expression with who I am or anyone else truly is. 

We are love. We are joy. We are all so very good. 

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About the author
Tad Inoue is an IFBB Professional League judge, Nutritionist and Professional Diet Coach for many clients and athletes worldwide. Tad has been in the bodybuilding and fitness industry for over 32 years and his clients include professional athletes, top amateur atheletes and all other competitors in figure, bikini, men and women's physique and bodybuilding, as well as individuals interested in optimal health. Tad was a National competitor in the NPC for over 30 years and now focuses his passion, knowledge and experience on helping and instructing others in fitness, wellness and athletic competition. His education includes philosophy, theology, nutrition, biochemistry as well as dietetics. He specializes in contest preparation for Figure, Bikini, men and women's Phyisque, Bodybuilding and fat loss for optimal health. Tad is also a speaker on mindfulness, motivation and joyful positive living.