Letting go is a learning tool

“Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.” – Jackson Kiddard

Letting go of my need to control all my outcomes in my life has been extremely rewarding over these last 7 years. It is normal in our culture today to grow up and to think that we have the power to control how and when anything may come to us. Our success, our relationships or even the end of our lives. We control none of these things, this is our delusion. 

I know the universe got it right when it gave us the power to create, but it did it in the midst of this infinite swirrling mass of vibration that we call our universe. Actually, the only two things we control in our lives are what we think about and what we do. Everything else is moving on its own. We may influence our outcomes but we do not control them exactly. 

This understanding of reality was the key for me in letting go of my desires to control just about every outcome in my life. For many years I would get upset or frustrated when I couldn’t achieve something on my timeline, or if I wasn’t getting a particular outcome that I desired when I thought I should. Now I know that it all comes to me when it should. 

If I rush anything then I run the risk of not being truly ready for what comes to me. And so I will not be able to hold on to it. I may want what I want, but I may not be completely ready to have it serve my life. The good news is, the way this life works, everything gets delivered to me exactly when it should, or in other words when I am really ready for it. 

And when I get impatient I just know that this is me trying to control my outcomes again and I am not completely ready for what I want. So I ask myself in these situations “What do I need to learn to grow closer to my desired outcomes?” And then I think and act in accordingly.  

What I know is that when I am ready for what I want then what I want comes to me easily. So I focus on the sacred labor of my life. This is what I have found to be the real juice of life! The destinations are great, but it truly is the magnificent journey that we are all on that makes the destinations worth the trip. After all, having a lover for example is wonderful but the relationship is flawed and unsatisfying if the love isn’t equally given and shared. 

Letting go of our need to control our outcomes in our lives is essential to being ready for what our lives will deliver to us and is the conduit for learning to be ready for what we truly desire. If you want help gaining clarity on why you may be having trouble letting go so that you can enjoy your journey more and achieve what you want, then let’s talk. 

I am opening up a few spots on my calendar so that I can help a few people gain clarity on letting go and allowing more into their lives. These spots will go fast, so please only book a call if you are really ready to talk deeply and do the deeper internal work. I am love. I am joy. I am so very good.   


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About the author
Tad Inoue is an IFBB Professional League judge, Nutritionist and Professional Diet Coach for many clients and athletes worldwide. Tad has been in the bodybuilding and fitness industry for over 32 years and his clients include professional athletes, top amateur atheletes and all other competitors in figure, bikini, men and women's physique and bodybuilding, as well as individuals interested in optimal health. Tad was a National competitor in the NPC for over 30 years and now focuses his passion, knowledge and experience on helping and instructing others in fitness, wellness and athletic competition. His education includes philosophy, theology, nutrition, biochemistry as well as dietetics. He specializes in contest preparation for Figure, Bikini, men and women's Phyisque, Bodybuilding and fat loss for optimal health. Tad is also a speaker on mindfulness, motivation and joyful positive living.