Confronting fear empowers personal growth

“Always do what you are afraid to do.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

How do you confront fear in your life? Fear can be an extremely debilitating force in a person’s life and knowing how to confront it is critical to self-improvement and the continual expansion of our lives. For many, fear can force them into believing in a negative fictional future outcome. These fearful feelings can also make some not want to act at all, which can be worse because it gives us the permission to stay stagnant in the growth of our life desires. And any decision guided by fear is always focused on sustaining the current feelings of safety, not on becoming something improved or better.  

Emerson must have known that in order to expand in our lives, we must do those things that we are often afraid of. So many of us grow up never really totally confronting our fears. We are traditionally taught to give into them. Most of us tend to run away from bad feelings, we do our best to ignore them and try to simply feel something else. But if we don’t have a way to confront what we dislike within us, then we don’t stand much of a chance to change, grow and become something new if we want to. 

The good news is that the main consequence to confronting fear and allowing yourself to feel what is happening is that we can now deconstruct our fear which allows us to see it for what it really is. Fear is you looking into your future and imagining negative outcomes. The truth is fear is all in our imagination. We evolved to have a certain level of fear because it can protect us from emergent dangers. But today the fears we tend to have do not revolve around life and death. Most of our fears revolve around money, relationships and careers, which none of these really are life threatening in general. 

Sadly, if we do not confront our fears we end up drawing what we fear most consistently into our experience in bigger and more concrete ways. I found this out myself in my own life just a couple  years ago. 

Since I was a teenager, every time I would enter into a new relationship I would have recurring nightmares of my lover leaving me. Once I felt secure in the relationship, usually after 9 months the nightmares would stop. It was frightening to me to think that person you love would just up and leave for no reason. It made me feel unlovable and not worthy of the love that I know I deserve. So I dug deeply into my own internal work and I uncovered that I was experiencing feelings of abandonment because of an unprocessed emotional trauma that I experienced as a child. 

I was able to confront those feelings and deconstruct them logically, revealing that they were just old feelings that my subconscious needed to get rid of but couldn’t accept through my dreams. Now that I have correctly processed and released this energy that was literally trapped within me for years, my nightmares have stopped. The most amazing part is that I see my relationships in more meaningful ways because I do not hold fear within me related to my lovers. And I have experienced a heightened sense of love for all that I encounter now. 

If you have something that is holding you back, I would be happy to help you. Book a discovery call with me and let’s just talk about it. If I can help you then I will make an offer to work with you. If I don’t then we both walk away as new friends and you get to dig into some of the inner work that you may need. Book a call with me and let’s see how we can free you from your fear.

I am love. I am joy. I am so very good.

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About the author
Tad Inoue is an IFBB Professional League judge, Nutritionist and Professional Diet Coach for many clients and athletes worldwide. Tad has been in the bodybuilding and fitness industry for over 32 years and his clients include professional athletes, top amateur atheletes and all other competitors in figure, bikini, men and women's physique and bodybuilding, as well as individuals interested in optimal health. Tad was a National competitor in the NPC for over 30 years and now focuses his passion, knowledge and experience on helping and instructing others in fitness, wellness and athletic competition. His education includes philosophy, theology, nutrition, biochemistry as well as dietetics. He specializes in contest preparation for Figure, Bikini, men and women's Phyisque, Bodybuilding and fat loss for optimal health. Tad is also a speaker on mindfulness, motivation and joyful positive living.