The Strength In Forgiveness and saying I’m Sorry

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” - Mahatma Gandhi

Forgiveness and apologizing feel very similar to me. They seem to carry the energies of confidence and love. Gandhi is spot on with his notion that forgiveness is an attribute of the strong, I think he would agree that so is being able to say I’m sorry. Some believe that forgiveness and appologizing indicate some kind of weakness in the idividual. John Wayne was quoted as saying  “Never apologize, mister, it’s a sign of weakness.” But I think that real weakness is being afraid to say I’m sorry for fear of appearing weak or wrong. But I would also say that forgiveness is  an attribute of only the most noble of characters. It expresses confidence in yourself and a loving attitude toward others. It is easy to say “I’m sorry” and not mean it, but you can’t fake forgiveness. Forgiveness or a lack of forgiveness shows up in our interactions with each other. 

The person who has the courage to say I’m sorry or leave transgressions behind is a person who shows a kind of inner confidence and strength that we all can have. When you understand who you are, and you see how you may have caused pain or suffering in the world, especially when you feel it yourself, then an apology and forgiveness are simply reflections of the confidence and love that you hold within you. What I reflect outward toward all those I interact with, is who I have decided to become in that moment. Who am I in these moments? I must be love. I must maintain the consistency of who I am. I am love. I am joy. I am good. And I do this not for others, but for my wellbeing. I am just so happy that others will always share in what I have to offer.  

About the author
Tad Inoue is an IFBB Professional League judge, Nutritionist and Professional Diet Coach for many clients and athletes worldwide. Tad has been in the bodybuilding and fitness industry for over 32 years and his clients include professional athletes, top amateur atheletes and all other competitors in figure, bikini, men and women's physique and bodybuilding, as well as individuals interested in optimal health. Tad was a National competitor in the NPC for over 30 years and now focuses his passion, knowledge and experience on helping and instructing others in fitness, wellness and athletic competition. His education includes philosophy, theology, nutrition, biochemistry as well as dietetics. He specializes in contest preparation for Figure, Bikini, men and women's Phyisque, Bodybuilding and fat loss for optimal health. Tad is also a speaker on mindfulness, motivation and joyful positive living.