Our feelings toward change in our lives starts and ends in our own minds. One of the hallmarks of change, whether it be social change or personal change, is the discomfort we experience when we move away from what used to be “normal.” But if we are to evolve and consistently make progress in this life, individually and as a people, we must embrace the discomfort that often comes when we change habits, rituals, beliefs and situations. What feels uncomfortable today, when given enough time, always becomes our new normal. Our discomfort with what is new to us is always dependent on the attitude that we take toward these changes. If we choose to focus on what we dislike about these changing experiences then we feel the discomfort of change. If we focus on the value these changes bring to our wellbeing, then we feel the exhilaration of positive change.
No matter what a person’s stance is on any given topic of change, two immutable facts of this life and universe are that change is necessary for expansion and it’s inevitable. To resist change in this life is like being a child who pouts about not getting what he or she wants, but in the end must acquiesce out of necessity. The real question becomes, how do we really want to feel in our experiences? Do we want to feel the discord of resistance? Or do we want to feel the exhilaration of ease and positive movement forward?
As long as we are participating in this grand expedition of life, then we must at least accept that we will always confront change in our lives. One way or another, we are changing personally and collectively. So I don’t stress or get upset about change any more. Sometimes I resist, but when I feel the resistance within me, I stop and remind myself that I am change. I am love. I am joy. I am always so very good.
