Dirty Windows of our Minds

THBM:
My thoughts were spent trying to see through the dirty window of someone else’s perspective that didn’t agree with my own this weekend. I have come to realize that memory is a malleable thing. We all think that our memories are infallible. We think if we can remember something it is how it was. But we now know that actually we don’t have as exact recollection of even our most treasured memories let alone our painful ones. We tend to leave out details the farther out in time we get, and we tend to rely on how we “feel” about a given topic to be our guide to confirming our understanding and recollection of what exactly may have happened to us. We have an emotional bias that obstructs our accurate vision of events and people. We all seem to have our own truths that are formed not only from our recollections of our past but also they are informed by how we feel in our life. Some people live lives that produce within them disappointment, anger and frustration and these kinds of emotional states are given an outlet in our lives when we interact with others. We then see our life experiences through the lenses of anger or frustration. For example, have you ever had a conversation with someone that no matter how hard you try it feels like the other person is just determined to be offended or upset. They seem to take everything the wrong way and they don’t seem to hear what you are actually trying to communicate to them? We all see life through our own biased windows that have been slowly dirtied from the time we were born till now. Our tragedies and our triumphs literally stand in our way of seeing life unbiased. Pain or anger are great examples, as to how our emotional states within us can taint how we recall events and how we perceive our experiences. No one can really hurt us emotionally, only physically. We have to participate, accept and receive the hurt from others in order for it to be real to us. In other words, we have to believe in the emotional pain in order for it to be real to us. In the end, we each must rely on our own truths to help us decipher our lives and our paths, but it is wise to do our best to clean the dirt off the windows of our own minds before we interact with others. After all, this is what we expect from others when they interact with us. We want them to see us as we are not as they want or perceive us to be. I am love. I am joy. I am so very good.