THBM:“You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do.” – Olin Miller
We all tend to act as if what everyone else thinks about us really matters, but the truth is we each really care more about ourselves than anyone else. Actually, your life is suppose to work this way, we need to act with self-interest in order to attract those things in life we want. We must care about ourselves so that we can feel our own power in life. Worrying about what others think about our decisions or what has happened to us in our lives is really a lot like worrying that your favorite basketball team won’t win a game you might be watching. If they win its great for them, but did you really win? You really aren’t a part of the team but you celebrate their success as if it is your win, and when you do it feels like your a winner. But really your just a fan and you didn’t win anything. But we pretend that their win is our win by association. Placing too much importance on what others think about us and our choices is really just as silly as thinking you are the winner of the Super Bowl just because your favorite team won. It is wonderful when others agree with us, but what if they think poorly of us? Does what others think about us change who we are?
The only reason we feel like winners when our team wins is because we have chosen to pretend that we are working in concert with our team. In those moments, we become an extension of our favorite team. But this works both ways, we can also feel like losers if we buy into that message or outcome. It doesn’t really mater what others think of you or your life choices, but it can matter if we let it. We decided what messages we are allowing into our life as truths. We participate in this kind of reality creation. If you believe in the importance of something, then it will feel important to you. If you feel like a loser then this is who you become in those moments. But if you feel like a champion, then that is who you become in that moment. We are in control always. We just need to remind ourselves who is in the drivers seat. I am love. I am joy. I am so very good.