“Defining love for me”

“To love someone is a promise of continual orientation. It is the recognition and alignment of wanting the highest good for another always.” -Tadayoshi Inoue

Love is often thought of as a feeling that we might have for another. But most version’s practiced can often be transitory and impermanent. Love to me is what it is, permanent and infinite. So to love someone like a daughter or a wife can’t be contingent on behavior. It is or it is not. Well at least my kind of love is. Otherwise, it’s really “I like you a lot until you do something that makes me upset.” That isn’t love at all. 

Love can see what is unseen in a person. It flows continually in spite of the conditions that may be present. It is ever-present and connects deeply at the level of being. It is what is most essential in each of us. 

I think so many toss this word around without giving real thought to what it really means or what it should mean to them. I have heard it a lot in my life. All well meaning and intended but most fell short of any kind of real permanence or depth. Sounds pessimistic but it has been my experience. 

I do have three exceptions my mother, my twin brother and my daughter. I would expect this from them, but I have yet to really find this in others. I have found other variations of love. But none that could be unwavering, truly sacrificial and authentically wanting my wellbeing just for me without wanting for themselves. 

This is ok, I don’t expect an evolved state of love from most but from my family and lovers I do desire it. I can’t really expect others to understand or want this but it is my hope they might. 

I enjoy pondering these ideas so that I can pursue them fully within myself and express them with others. I can’t just want something for myself I must become what I wish. 

Picture: My daughter the day after she was born. I loved her with purpose and from the moment I felt her presence in my life, this will never go away.

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Tad Inoue is an IFBB Professional League judge, Nutritionist and Professional Diet Coach for many clients and athletes worldwide. Tad has been in the bodybuilding and fitness industry for over 32 years and his clients include professional athletes, top amateur atheletes and all other competitors in figure, bikini, men and women's physique and bodybuilding, as well as individuals interested in optimal health. Tad was a National competitor in the NPC for over 30 years and now focuses his passion, knowledge and experience on helping and instructing others in fitness, wellness and athletic competition. His education includes philosophy, theology, nutrition, biochemistry as well as dietetics. He specializes in contest preparation for Figure, Bikini, men and women's Phyisque, Bodybuilding and fat loss for optimal health. Tad is also a speaker on mindfulness, motivation and joyful positive living.