How do I enjoy every experience I have even if I am in the middle of some crappy stuff? Most people are simply reactors in life they can be happy if happy things happen for them and they are angry or frustrated when bad things happen. This is merely a reaction. Somebody gives you the middle finger so you give them one. Reaction. But how can I take that experience and find joy in it?
Every emotion we experience is at its chore based on the messages that we tell ourselves in that moment. There is something declarative and powerful when someone says something to us that either pleases us or offends us and we instinctively want to set it right or make them feel what we feel. Its a kind of punishment but it is completely reactive.
If we were to be intentional and act from out highest self or from our true intentions then most likely we would do something else. In this case, we would know that this offending person simply doesn’t share our ideas about us or something else is going on within them to tell themselves a message that might encourage them to flip us off.
No mater which it is a reaction and it can feel awful if you care about the opinions of this offender. How can I enjoy this experience? Our messages have to do with where our focus is in that moment. If I am focused on what they think and how they are expressing it. Then yes I am probably going to have a tough time and not enjoy this interaction.
But what if I changed my focus? I could focus on some other characteristic or element in this exchange that tells me something wonderful. Maybe this person is beautiful or maybe there is some other quality in this experience not related to them that I can pay attention to that I appreciate? Which ever I can turn my attention to something else like a spot light.
My messages and emotions are directly tied to my focus and sometimes I have to ignore or completely disregard someone if they are disruptive or maligned with me. While I am not enjoying the finger I can make my experience in all cases more desirable if I so choose to.
Try this, yes you will have to tune some people out of your attention at times but do they deserve to have your attention if they are mean or disruptive? I say no. We all have the right to think as we wish and to pay attention to what we wish use your attention as a weapon to defend your experiences. You will find that these disruptive people will simply vanish from your experience elevating the quality of your emotional experiences.
I am love. I am joy. I am so very good. And so are you.
Picture: One of my treasured experiences in bodybuilding not because I won, I lost actually (5th place that year) at that North American Championships.
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