Deeply connecting and vulnerability

“Deeply connecting with another is like being heard and recognized for the glory that I am, even when I don’t feel like I am.” - Tadayoshi Inoue

Have you ever been truly vulnerable with someone? Have you ever opened yourself up and shared all the beauty and ugliness that you feel you have with someone? Have you trusted someone so intimately that when you spoke your truth you knew they still loved you even though you knew they did not like what they heard from you?

This level of intimacy and vulnerability is something that I have not found very abundant in many relationships. I have literally begged several partners of mine to try and share with me at this level, but to no avail. I realize that it can be truly unsettling and very scary to most.

Who we present ourselves to the world as and who we feel we are on the inside can often times be somewhat different. Sharing some of these parts of ourselves that may be unsavory to some can feel very scary because we all want to be liked and accepted by others. 

Social acceptance is an important part of being human. After all, we’re pack animals and we need our tribes to help us, nurture us, protect us and give us a sense of community and family that is important to feeling like we are a part of our world. Without this social mechanism we feel alone, disconnected and dis-empowered. 

Connecting deeply with another can be one of the most healing and liberating experiences in life. It re-assures us and validates who we are and what we feel. But most importantly, deeply and honestly connecting with another opens our hearts to each other and we get to feel the wonderful resonance of love that is at the core of who we all are. 

This kind of connecting is a rare gift. It is in my opinion, the most valuable kind of gift a person can possibly give to another. It is the gift of authenticity and love. 

When I share with you who I truly am, I share a part of myself that only I usually get to see. To show another who I truly am, even though I know you may not like some parts of it is probably one of the bravest and most loving things I can think of. 

This kind of deep connection is brave because after I show you who I truly am, good or bad there is no going back. But it is the most loving because this is an act of truth and trust. Being truthful about who I am and trusting you with myself is a deeply loving act. After all, it is hard for me to believe that anyone can truly love all of someone if they haven’t been introduced honestly. 

I am love. I am joy. I am so very good. And so are each one of you.

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About the author
Tad Inoue is an IFBB Professional League judge, Nutritionist and Professional Diet Coach for many clients and athletes worldwide. Tad has been in the bodybuilding and fitness industry for over 32 years and his clients include professional athletes, top amateur atheletes and all other competitors in figure, bikini, men and women's physique and bodybuilding, as well as individuals interested in optimal health. Tad was a National competitor in the NPC for over 30 years and now focuses his passion, knowledge and experience on helping and instructing others in fitness, wellness and athletic competition. His education includes philosophy, theology, nutrition, biochemistry as well as dietetics. He specializes in contest preparation for Figure, Bikini, men and women's Phyisque, Bodybuilding and fat loss for optimal health. Tad is also a speaker on mindfulness, motivation and joyful positive living.