I used to ask all my new athletes and clients three qualifying questions before I accepted anyone as a client. I would ask “Are you positive?” “Can you put faith in my process?” And the last but most important question: “Do you believe in yourself?” The answers were almost always Yes, I am positive. Yes I can put faith in your process and Yes, I do believe in myself. But the really the answers that they lived out through our process together were almost always: most were as positive as they could be as long as they felt they were making progress. They had faith in my process as long as they were making progress, and they could believe in themselves as long as the evidence of their lives supported their beliefs. As soon as the conditions surrounding their expectations didn’t match up, almost all lost faith in themselves and the process and they showed that they really only believed in what they could see right away. They only could believe in what they saw as proof. They essential had very little faith in themselves or my process.
I have always had outliers however who where exceptional in their faith in me and themselves. These clients and athletes always excelled. Sometimes it took longer than expected. Sometimes there were fierce lessons to be learned. But in the end, these individuals never gave up their faith in me or themselves, never surrendered their dreams over, they all held to the vision inside of them and relied on the labor of our process. And it always, always paid off!
I can’t help anyone who decides to give up. It doesn’t matter what the excuses or reasons for quitting on your dreams and process are, in the end it is still quitting on your process. Those same people if they were getting what they expected from their progress or results, they wouldn’t have quit. They quit not because they lacked the willingness to pursue their dreams. They always gave up because they no longer could take the emotional abuse that they felt each day working and feeling like they were not making progress. They were too focused on the results. They were too focused on the goal.
We need to know what our goals and visions are that we wish to achieve. But in order to have the most success, we must focus daily on the labor of our processes. We must do more than focus on it, we must love the work. I mean really love the work. If you can find a way to love the labors of what it takes to deliver to you what you want. Whether it be an education, a sport, music or any endeavor you wish to master and achieve in your life. If you can love the work that goes along with honing your craft, then you have cracked the code. Your going to be a Michael Jordan, an Albert Einstein, a Mozart or a Steve Jobs. Disappointment is not in the mindset of a person who is focused on doing what they love. They don’t care what the results are, they care only about doing the labor of love that excites them.
We are magicians weaving the magical spells of our beliefs! What we firmly believe we always achieve. Because you don’t give up on what you believe in. You don’t quit something you believe in. You don’t question what you believe in. You follow your beliefs. You rely on your faith that what you believe is yours. It doesn’t matter when, or how, or why something will come to you. It only matters that you do not need proof or reasons for your belief. You are creating and you know your power. We are love. We are joy. We are so very good.