What Do We Do With Our Pain and Suffering

“Behind every beautiful thing, there's some kind of pain.”- Bob Dylan

What do we do with our pain? How do we handle our suffering? The only reason pain or suffering exists within us is because we insist on believing that pain and suffering is because we do not experience what we believe we want or should. It is our attachment to particular outcomes and the expectations we desire that lead us to suffer. Buddhism says that if we attach ourselves too much to our own sense of personhood, things, people or even this world we will encounter suffering. The assumption is that suffering is bad. I disagree today. In the past I would have agreed and said it is better to detach from outcomes, from your ideas and the things in our lives in order to get an easier and lighter experience in this life. While I still think detachment is a generally good idea, I think there is another way to use pain and suffering as a tool to empower us.
Our pain and our challenges in this life experience can deeply move and inspire us to achieve such wonderful things. We can see our pain as a doorway in to which we launch ourselves into the transforming experiences of our lives. We can use our pain to inspire us to action and to fill our lives with deep and wonderful purpose. However, holding too tightly to anything has the potential to produce our own brand of suffering. The best way I know how to confront pain is with compassion. In other words, when I feel the discomfort of life, it is then that I offer myself a little compassion. I use my three affirmations to help sooth my inner conflict. And it affirms who I am, my purpose in this life, and the intention of my being. I am love. I am joy. I am so very good always.

About the author
Tad Inoue is an IFBB Professional League judge, Nutritionist and Professional Diet Coach for many clients and athletes worldwide. Tad has been in the bodybuilding and fitness industry for over 32 years and his clients include professional athletes, top amateur atheletes and all other competitors in figure, bikini, men and women's physique and bodybuilding, as well as individuals interested in optimal health. Tad was a National competitor in the NPC for over 30 years and now focuses his passion, knowledge and experience on helping and instructing others in fitness, wellness and athletic competition. His education includes philosophy, theology, nutrition, biochemistry as well as dietetics. He specializes in contest preparation for Figure, Bikini, men and women's Phyisque, Bodybuilding and fat loss for optimal health. Tad is also a speaker on mindfulness, motivation and joyful positive living.