Deep Listening is Required for Conflict Resolution

“I began to understand that suffering and disappointments and melancholy are there not to vex us or cheapen us or deprive us of our dignity but to mature and transfigure us.” - Hermann Hesse, Peter Camenzind


Tomorrow I am half a century old! And what a  year we have had so far! Between a pandemic, social distancing, self-quarantining and now riots and social unrest, I suspect that we will have a transformative next 6 months! If my experience of my world has shown me anything valuable, it has shown me that no matter how many dark spots I see and experience, it is always up to me to bring forth from within love, joy, understanding and healing. In my fifty years so far, I have never seen good resolutions that came from violence, yelling at each other or hatred for anyone. While sometimes I know it is necessary to stand up and fight for what you want in this life, there also comes a time once our grievances have been put on the table to start doing some deeper listening with each other. It is lazy and foolish to call “the other” the enemy when you don’t understand their point of view. It is easy to lose perspective when we give into our anger or frustrations. Now is a time for deep listening. Listen to the pain and suffering of others. Seek a deeper understanding with your fellow brothers and sisters of this world. If we can do this, our world will transform into something so beautiful that it will be hard to recognize from today. But our transformation is linked to our ability and willingness to seek common ground instead of highlighting our difference of perspectives or our difference of experience in the world. We are tethered to our approach. How we find resolution is just as important as what we end up with. We must all be wise enough and compassionate enough to understand that there is an infinite space in this universe for all ideas and all of our world views. And as we collectively decide which ideas to through out and which we want to embrace, we must be careful not to reject the people we are in dialogue with. We can reject ideas but never people. We are love. We are joy. We all are so very good.

About the author
Tad Inoue is an IFBB Professional League judge, Nutritionist and Professional Diet Coach for many clients and athletes worldwide. Tad has been in the bodybuilding and fitness industry for over 32 years and his clients include professional athletes, top amateur atheletes and all other competitors in figure, bikini, men and women's physique and bodybuilding, as well as individuals interested in optimal health. Tad was a National competitor in the NPC for over 30 years and now focuses his passion, knowledge and experience on helping and instructing others in fitness, wellness and athletic competition. His education includes philosophy, theology, nutrition, biochemistry as well as dietetics. He specializes in contest preparation for Figure, Bikini, men and women's Phyisque, Bodybuilding and fat loss for optimal health. Tad is also a speaker on mindfulness, motivation and joyful positive living.